Lesson 3 – The Emotional Guidance System

There is only one emotional spectrum; this spectrum has two sides to it. This is all you need to know about the emotional body: that there is only one emotional spectrum. There are not a ton of emotions—as we have been taught.

For the purpose of this lesson I would love for you to let go of the idea that there is a wide spectrum of different emotions—that there is jealousy, that there is anger, that there is regret, that there is trauma, that there is joy, that there is happiness, that there is fun—all of these things.

There is Only One Emotional Spectrum

I want you to simplify this whole process by observing the fact that there is only one emotional spectrum, only one emotional body, only one emotional field, only one emotional presence. And this presence, this field, this body has different ends to its spectrum, but it is still the same one spectrum. There are not actually different segmented, separated emotions.

We’re going to summarize the entirety of the human emotional experience, make it really simple, really crystal clear, really accurate so that you can use it in a very clear way, rather than be confused by it on a daily basis.

So, when emotions come up for you in everyday life, stop analyzing and start simplifying. By simplifying, I mean instead of seeing a wide range of different emotions, view it as a wide range of this single emotion, with two sides to it—let’s say the upward end and the downward end of the spectrum.

The upward end of the spectrum is experienced as elevation or elation or happiness or joy or excitement or ecstasy or peace. The downward side, or end, of this singular emotional body that you have and are, is depression, anxiety, lack—all those ideas, all those feelings that feel heavy, that feel like they slow you down, like they make you more like ice, rather than steam.

The Emotional Guidance System

The emotional body is a guidance system. It has been put in place as a bridge between our physical mind-body-based existence—our view of physical reality—and our most expansive view: what we could call our Higher Self or soul’s perspective, or our spirit perspective.

The emotional body functions as a mediator, as a bridge, as a communicator, as a translator between these two realms: the physical and the non-physical. That’s why it is crucially important to understand how this works. If only we could teach our children in this world how to utilize the emotional body, teach them what its purpose is, how it functions, and what it means—what it actually means when an emotion flares up. If that could happen, all problems would be solved, all psychological warfare types of problems would be solved instantaneously within the next generation.

That’s how crucial this is; that’s how simple this is.

In fact, this is a single teaching in and of itself—to use the emotional guidance system in an appropriate way.

When you’re feeling happiness, when you’re feeling joy…it’s because you have somehow positioned your personal vibration in alignment. How? Through your definitions, your belief systems, your perspectives on life. Through the point of view of Existence that you adopt, and its position—that is, where you have placed your point of view into the vibrational spectrum of creation. If you feel happy, you have placed it somewhere along the line of your alignment, somewhere in the center of your being, in the truth of your true Self.

It is because you have positioned yourself vibrationally in alignment with your true self, that you feel joy. And you feel connection—as if you belong to all of creation, and that creation belongs to you—that there is an inseparability. You feel like everything is possible, that there is infinite abundance—everywhere, and all the time!

Now, this is somewhat an extreme version of the experience of alignment, but it is possible and accessible. Whenever you are happy, you are downloading some version of this alignment. When you are feeling depressed or sad—not that these things are bad, not that they have to be pushed away—but these feelings should be understood. You need to understand that when you are feeling depressed, anxious, stressed, sad, grieving, any of these ideas, these feelings…it is because you have positioned your vibrational perspective, your point of view on life, in a frequency that is out of alignment with the truth of your being.

For example, if you take the perspective, “I just lost my grandfather,” or “I just lost my dog”—then, that perspective of lack, that you are lacking your dog, lacking love, feeling abandoned by your dog or your grandfather, or whatever might be “lacking,” you feel bad. But if your lack definitions were true, it would feel great to define life in that way. If it was an actual truth that you were lacking something, you would feel ecstatic about it. With a different perspective, the same event would feel amazing and exciting.

We don’t feel pain because our grandfather died or because our dog died; we feel pain because the position we have taken on the matter, the point of view we have adopted on what happened, on the circumstance, is out of vibrational alignment. Our position is removed from the true frequency of the nature of reality, of who we really are, of what we really are, of what is actually, fundamentally, universally true.

On the other hand, you could see an event like having lost your dog from the point of view of abundance. You could see it as “there is an abundance of connection” or “he has merged back into his true consciousness; spirit will always be alive and I am still connected, I can still communicate with the essence of that being.” You might also think, “Now there are different ways that his being-ness can explore itself—it can evolve and move on to the next thing. It has learned everything it had to learn from this physical lifetime. We had an amazing time and we’ll have an amazing time in different ways‐simultaneously to this physical reality—unaware to my conscious mind, but that’s okay.”

Those are just some examples of how you could rephrase the same situation from a broader understanding, from a frequency of love, trust, appreciation, infinite abundance, and from the truth that there is never a loss or lack of anything. Then the same scenario of losing your dog suddenly feels beautiful. This doesn’t mean you can’t shed a tear; it doesn’t mean you’re not releasing any emotional charge around all that you have accumulated over those years of friendship and companionship.

It doesn’t mean you’re not sad in a way. However, you are not fundamentally, existentially sad. You don’t feel betrayed, you don’t feel lost, or lonely, or that you’re lacking. And you don’t feel disconnected from the universe; rather, you feel in alignment, you feel in Truth, you feel connected.

So, it’s the same scenario, but when you apply a different definition to it, it changes the whole situation, the whole gestalt; it changes your whole emotional field. Why is this? It is so you can learn, using the guidance system of your emotional body. It is so you can learn to always bring yourself back to center, to always re-position yourself in the center of the truth of your being—into alignment.

When you stray too far right or left, the emotional body is there to let you know that’s all it is. When you’re suffering, when you’re in pain, it lets you know that the way you are perceiving and thinking about life is inaccurate. That’s all. Suffering is meant as a guidance principle to guide you back into clarity, into truthfulness, into alignment—that’s all!. So it should be appreciated. Suffering should not be seen as a bad thing or as having an actual cause “out there.” It should be appreciated as a guidance system letting you know that your vibrational position, your point of view, your definitions, and where you have chosen to position yourself is actually not a true place—it’s not where you want to be.

That is clarity. That is amazing information. If only we could to learn to utilize our emotional body and our suffering in that way, we would suffer way, way less! Because we have started to utilize every moment effectively and we are discovering that we can define every moment from an abundant point of view—rather than basing it on a belief in lack and thinking it is actually “out there.”

When you place your point of view in alignment with who you truly are, this is when happiness is released into your emotional body; this is when joy and ecstasy are released. All your bodies—your physical, mental, emotional, and spirit bodies—line up, in a sense, like planets. You could say they make a straight line so that energy can be completely channeled into your being. You become transparent to the truth of who you are—rather than muddied and blocked, ignorant and arrogant, selfish, and so on (innocently so, but still egotistical in your ways of thinking). So, utilize the emotional body to let you know whether or not your positioned point of view, your definition of that moment, is either in or out of alignment with the truth of reality.

Now, here’s another fun fact to realize…

You Have Never Actually Experienced an Emotion

That’s right. In actuality, you’ve only ever experienced the degree to which you have positioned yourself in or out of alignment with the nature of reality. So, what you feel is not an emotion; what you feel is the distance between your true self and your positioned self, or the difference between truth and what you believe is true. When you are in alignment and are experiencing positive emotions, they are not just positive emotions that come up either randomly or are triggered by circumstances. What you are experiencing is the degree to which you have minimized the difference in frequency between your personal self and your spirit Self or True Self—that is, your true nature.

You Always Feel Something

Another fun thing to notice is that you are always feeling something. Even if it feels very neutral, very soft or gentle, or very subtle, you are always feeling something—as long as you exist and as long as there is consciousness. You always feel something because you are always placing yourself somewhere along the line of your alignment, somewhere along the line of truth. You are always positioning yourself somewhere in reference to the true, core frequency of your Self—which is always on.

You can never stop radiating your true frequency. You are always somewhere in relationship to that center point of your being, to the truth of your being which you always are. So, because you are always positioning yourself somewhere in reference to that, and because the truth of your being is constant, you will always be experiencing feelings based on where you have placed yourself in reference to the center of your truth.

How to See Your Suffering

You can start seeing your suffering—whenever you notice yourself suffering—in this way: Imagine a center pole that represents your true alignment, your true center of being. Imagine you have an elastic band around that center pole of your being and also that there is a smaller pole which represents your “positioned” self. The smaller pole is connected to the larger one by an elastic band, so the further you pull yourself away from the center, from the truth of your being or your “spiritual center of gravity,” the more tension will be on the elastic band.That tension is what you feel as the tugging on your being, on your body, when you are positioning your point of view out of alignment with the truth of your being. That is literally what suffering is. The further you move away, the more tension and the more stress you experience on your system—because it is actually calling you back, tugging and pulling you back. It wants to guide you back into your center of gravity.


The homework for this lesson is simply to observe yourself in your everyday life as the analogy of the poles and the elastic band. Every time you suffer, notice that you have positioned yourself out of alignment with the truth of your being. In other words, you are believing in some form of lack, some variation of lack—that something is missing, something is not perfect, something is not right, something is lacking. Simply increase your awareness of this dynamic so that you start to naturally gravitate toward your true center of being.

So, again…

(a) Keep observing the process that is happening on a daily basis, but now with this newly found awareness that there is only one emotion, only one emotional spectrum, and that your emotions have only one purpose: to let you know whether you are positioning yourself in or out of alignment. Pay close attention to your emotional body’s responses to everyday life events and thoughts and definitions.

(b) Be resolved; be committed to bringing yourself back to center. We will get into more specifics later with additional tips and tools, but for now just start experimenting and trying out what ways of seeing life actually bring you back into the sense of connection, abundance, and the truth of your reality.

So, (a) be alert to whenever you are misaligned through the sensations that the emotional body gives you, and (b) notice how you label and define events. Notice the types of thoughts, the types of commitment and resolve, the types of energetic or vibrational attitudes, the types of beliefs and perspectives you have on life, the types of new definitions you can paste onto a circumstance that you would previously define in a very lacking way (thereby causing you suffering).

Start experimenting with different ways of defining your reality or seeing life that are in alignment and bring you back to center. Be aware of misalignments and then figure out what works for you to immediately bring you back to center, to feel happy again, to feel confident again, to feel rooted in the abundance of the endlessness of infinite Existence.

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